7. Deep Throating Is An Optional Skill

Your wouldn’t know it from watching porn, but deep throating isn’t required in order to have oral sex with a penis. If you are interested in it, know that it takes practice, and that gag reflexes are hard to tame. The first time I tried it, I wasn’t prepared for the whole gag reflex thing, and I hated everything about it. Now that I’ve had some practice, though, I think it can actually be really fun. It’s also totally fine though, if you never find it fun. It’s 100 percent optional, and no partner worth having will try to guilt or shame you if you’re not interested in doing it.

8. It’s OK If You Don’t Dig Receiving

I feel like oral sex gets a lot of hype, and for me personally, the hype is totally true. But it’s OK if you just aren’t into it, because everyone’s different.

9. Swallowing Isn’t Always Gross (Or Mandatory)

Honestly, I like swallowing, and I know a lot of other girls who do, too. When I started having oral sex, I was all set to find it off-putting; so I was pleasantly surprised to find that swallowing isn’t always gross. However, know that swallowing — like so many other parts of oral sex — is completely optional, and only something you should try if you’re interested and comfortable with it.

10. Oral Sex Isn’t All About The Mouth

Despite what the name implies, good oral sex usually involves a certain amount of eye contact, as well as some manual stimulation. But just like every other aspect of oral sex, this usually depends on your partner’s preferences. And if your experiences with oral sex have been anything like mine, this is probably something you had to learn on your own.